Don’t hate me, but I’ve always been one of those enviable (to some, not to all) people whose weight has mostly stayed the same since I was a teenager.
Sure, my weight has fluctuated 10 or so pounds over the years (it still does), and then there was that time I gained close to a third of my body weight when I was pregnant with sweet Bazooka, but mostly, I’ve been little ol’ me since I was in high school.
In some respects, that’s wonderful.
Dresses I wore in college still fit.
I never felt the need to lose a ton of weight when I got married.
I generally eat what I want, when I want it.
But on the other hand, it’s been frustrating.
Clothing brands that used to fit have changed their sizing, often leaving me empty-handed when I leave the fitting room.
I feel less womanly, since, you know, “real women have curves” and all that BS.Real women come in all shapes & sizes #bodyimage #confidence Click To Tweet
But, thankfully, I’ve reached a point where my size and my weight are just…my size and my weight.
Like many women, I’ve struggled with body image. I’ve felt the need to restrict what I eat, and I’ve exercised because I had to instead of for the enjoyment of it.
But now that I’m a mother (and have already snagged my sexy husband ;-)), I just don’t care that much about how my body looks.
Sure, I take care of it. I look for clothing that fits well and flatters my shape, but I don’t obsess over whether my thighs touch or if when the skin on my not-quite-flat stomach gets all doughy and mushy when I bend over.
You could say I’ve reached my happy weight—without any fad diets, extreme workouts, or restrictive habits.
That’s because “happy weight” is mental. It’s all about how you feel in your body.
No, it doesn’t mean you’re 100% confident in a bikini or that you never have a “fat day.”
Your happy weight is when you reach a point where you realize your body is just a shell for the whole of you: your dazzling mind, your corny jokes, your ability to make strangers feel comfortable.Your happy weight isn't just PHYSICAL... #TOL #bodyimage Click To Tweet
It’s when you graciously accept a compliment instead of reacting with self-deprecation.
Your happy weight is when you say “oh screw it” and throw out your old “skinny” jeans and spend $80 on an ass-hugging new pair of jeans that suit your body type.
It’s when you laugh at your toddler when he lifts up your shirt and plays with your belly fat.
Your happy weight is wearing a bikini…or a one-piece…or, hell, a burkini…with confidence and no apologies.
It’s when you eat good food and drink good wine with abandon and wake up the next day with gratitude and good memories instead of feelings of guilt and the compulsion to exercise those calories (and experiences) away.Let go of #guilt and LOVE your body... #bodyimage #selfcare Click To Tweet
Your happy weight is when you realize your body is a gift to enable you to enjoy the beautiful things in life.
No matter how far the scale inches up or down, I want to stay at my happy weight. Don’t you?
[linking up for thinking out loud]
So tell me…
- What does “healthy weight” mean to you?
- Have you ever struggled with body image or weight gain/loss?