Year after year, I give in to peer pressure by writing out the customary New Year’s resolution post.
But you know what?
I’m not really a big New Year’s resolution person.
Yes, I like to create periodic goals for myself, but I sort of eschew the expectation of setting pie-in-the-sky resolutions one month only to break (or simply forget about) them a few months later.
So, this year, I’m saying no.
Rather than tell you that I plan to eat healthy, go to the gym x times a week, and save x amount of money each month, I’ve put together a list of things I will NOT do this year. A list of “anti-goals,” if you will.
I’ve learned a lot about myself and my strengths/weaknesses this year, but there are still some things I need to work on.
What I Won’t Do in 2017 (A Different New Year’s Resolution Post)
I will not mindlessly complain about situations without making an effort to fix them
Nobody likes a Negative Nancy, myself included. Venting—with the goal to make changes—is healthy, but complaining with no objective or plan to make improvements is a waste of everybody’s time.
I will not allow myself to feel guilty for practicing self-care
I’ve written all about mommy guilt, and while I realize deep inside that self-care is NOT selfish, I still find myself battling the guilt that comes with a scheduled massage or an hour at the gym. But, I am a better mother and wife when I make time for these things, so I must move past the guilt.
I will not let fear prevent me from standing up for myself
This year was the first year I pushed fear aside and stood up for myself (in the work realm, at least). And, you know what? While I don’t feel comfortable discussing details about my job on here (you’ll respect my privacy, right?), let’s just say that my superiors actually listened to me and my “worst fears” were all in my head. So, yeah, I’m going to make standing up for myself a habit.
I will not miss out on family time because of blog “work”
I’m a perfectionist, and once I start something, I go all in until it’s finished. But…when it comes to blogging—my hobby and not my job—I need to learn to relax and allow projects to go unfinished or later than scheduled. I do not want Bazooka’s early memories to be of his parents, nose-deep in a computer or iPad!
I will not deny myself a simple pleasure just because it’s “impractical”
Every time I think “I’m going to try out a new hairstyle” or I want to treat myself to a mani-pedi, I convince myself that I really don’t need it and can better spend that $50 or $30 dollars on diapers or food. While that is true, it doesn’t mean I can’t treat myself every now and then. Even if it’s bringing back my “Iced Coffee Fridays,” I’m not going to deny myself simple pleasures (unless they’re way out of our budget).
I will not forget to be grateful for the little (and not-so-little) things in life
While anxiety and depression are real and can make day-to-day life incredibly difficult, I absolutely feel that practicing daily gratitude can vastly improve mood. When life becomes overwhelming or I want to vent about ALL the things, I will remember that I am blessed beyond measure and am largely in control of how I feel.
I will not restrict the foods I eat or let exercise become a compulsion
Do I want to be healthy in 2017? Absolutely, especially since I’ve been over-eating the cookies and over-imbibing the booze. However, I refuse to let those things—food and exercise—control me. When a workout becomes a method to “erase” the calories I consume, then it’s no longer healthy.A new type of #resolution for the #NewYear #TOL #selfcare Click To Tweet
These are just a few of the “anti-goals” I have for the year. More than anything, I just want to live happily, confidently, and compassionately. And I don’t need a New Year’s resolution for that. <3
[thanks for letting me think out loud]
So tell me…
- Do you normally set resolutions for the New Year?
- What is your “anti-goal” for 2017?